It’s so hard to try to regain order and discipline if things have been let go. Just like it’s hard to lose weight, whereas gaining weight is so easy. Daily discipline and good habits are so valuable and should be maintained constantly. It seems that that would be such a lot of work. But I firmly believe, having learned the very hard way, that the work of daily maintenance of good habits is much easier work than having to backtrack, dig out the old and bad and then begin the rebuilding and recapturing process. Too soon old; too late smart.
I have let so much slide that now has to be recaptured and retaught and new old habits made. The house work, eating habits, hygiene and body care, study habits, dealing with sin in godly ways rather than in anger and impatience and disgust. The piles of stuff and clutter that lay about the house are only symptomatic of the clutter and bad habits that are lying all over the rest of our lives. We have allowed nasty tones of voices, cutting down, biting humor as well as sloppiness in schoolwork and housekeeping. And now we have to face those ugly piles of clutter and sin and do battle with them, cut them down to nothing and then build new and good habits which should have been built and maintained years ago. Good habits actually simplify life.
Where to start?! Here are some immediate goals:
Speech: Build the habits of gentle and encouraging words and tones of voice. Help everyone mind their own business.
Responsibility: Give rewards and praise for those who complete their responsibilities, especially if they take the initiative to do something.
Homemaking: Continue to attack 2-3 hotspots/piles per week. Build habit of maintaining order by putting things away immediately after use. Spend more time in the kitchen.
Finances: Build habit of keeping a close eye on what’s coming and going. Always write in debits.
Spiritual: Don’t just read the daily Bible reading – meditate, pray, journal, share.
Physical: Exercise at least once a day – pilates & T. Tapp. Hopefully walk outside, too. Eat natural, thinking about eliminating wheat. Don’t stress about weight.
Family Relationships: Review how to correct in godly love and pass that on to the girls. Use God’s Word to point out sins, not correcting just because they’re being annoying or irresponsible.
Spouse Relationships: Don’t be so busy, especially when Lovey’s home. Work on thoughtfulness in the little things.
Education: Build the habit of checking everybody’s work daily and then helping them learn from their mistakes. Require more writing. Keep my mind in the schooling.
Somehow this must all be done with an attitude of love and joy rather than militaristic regimen and boot camp barking. Rewards and praise rather than constant criticism.
“Let no one seek his own good, but that of his neighbor.” I Cor. 10:24
“And let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we shall reap if we do not grow weary.” Galatians 6:9
“Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind let each of you regard on another as more important than himself; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.” Philippians 2:3-4
So thus begins what I’ve been thinking of as an Overall Overhaul.